WHEN EMOTIONS BACKFIRE:
By Syed Roman Ahsan
(Nov. 2009)
Published @
EzineArticles.com
Also Published: DAILY
NEWS – Karachi.
Emotions are wonderful.
They can make you laugh, cry or fall in love while not being confined to any
age, race, season or place. When you dive deep into the sea of emotions and
come out floating, you are rejuvenated with a new spirit. You get enhanced with
a rich experience that teaches you about the philosophy of life. The sad thing
is that one can get deeply hurt also owing to intense emotions which again
depends on our respective vulnerabilities. Life is not fair sometimes. It
treats all of us differently but shows its worst side when it comes to
feelings. The promise of spring fails sometimes when autumn reigns with full
force instead.
Sensitivity and strong
feelings complement each other. Men are not any stronger than women when it
comes to matters of heart. In fact men with sincere feelings could be more
prone to pains of love compared to women. Our Creator intended love to reside
in the depths of our hearts. It is very natural for us to manifest our feelings
to members of opposite sex. Yet, the only desirable thing for us is not to get
carried away in our pursuits of love. Still, we just cannot help it at times. A
person in love desperately seeks the completion of his soul through
reciprocation of his feelings. The greatest tragedy in life occurs when a
lover's expectations extremely exceed the loved one's response.
In today's world
workplaces offer more opportunities to males and females to interact with each
other since they spend a full day there compared to co-educational
institutions. In majority of cases mutual physical attraction propels a man
and a woman to come closer. A sincere man does not aim for casual affairs but
looks for the realization of his dreams through the bonds of a marital
relationship. Lady luck does not readily comply though. Man's sincerity does
not merely fulfill a dream. A girl has to be genuine in her pursuits too. It
could be that either she is just looking for friendship in the process losing
control of her emotions at times thus conveying certain signals to the man
even though she never means to flirt. The poor man interprets her caring
gestures as a real interest in him making him further fall for her. Even though
he only wishes to concentrate on his job at his respective workplace initially
but when nature thrusts an opportunity in his face, it becomes a helpless
situation for him. It seems almost impossible for him to resist the advances of
a female especially if the two share a common outlook on life. Events just get
rolling towards an unknown destination where it is difficult for both to
harness the reins of self-control!
When God created Adam, a
being superior to angels, He infused in him sentiments which His earlier
creation lacked. Heaven became his abode where he had access to everything he
could possibly wish for. However, man remained dissatisfied and craved for
someone to share his life with. Eve was eventually created as the answer to his
loneliness, a most beautiful partner. He was immediately drawn towards her and
wanted to touch her but was at once admonished by the Divine Authority and
commanded that she could only be his once he entered a formal contract with
her. And this is what remains to date. We see that even the first man created
by God whose pure soul had not yet been corrupted with shades of evil felt
himself weak against the temptation of a woman. A beautiful girl in today's
world knows this weakness of men. She wants to be adored by men and feels
offended when they ignore her. In fact she is flattered when an attractive man
lavishes attention on her. Both of them look for opportunities where they could
possibly engage each other's focus. Man generally takes the lead in aspiring for
the girl's attention. Situations arise though where the man is indifferent but
it is the girl who deliberately distracts him thus forming a chain reaction.
The longings of the soul make the man fall deeply in love with the girl only to
find out finally that his feelings cannot be seriously reciprocated. Femme
fatale seals the relationship and just walks away!
The pain of loss of love
is equivalent to the sorrow which one feels upon the death of a loved one.
Heartbroken and dejected, he loses interest in everything. Time will heal the
wounds and the picture will just fade away, he consoles himself. All that is
left behind is the need for him to pick his soul and start walking again.
Does David Borenstein
make sense when he says: "Feelings are not supposed to be logical.
Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions."?
Wonderful insight into love. Good intensity.
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